What movie is your life like?

A Man and His Truck

A Man and His Truck

My father never owned a new car. A Volkswagen, station wagon, two Dodge Plymouth vans, a couple of Buicks (one with an ’72 Olympic emblem on the hood), all with driver’s seats formed in the shape of previous owners. He seemed to like these cars, took great care of them, especially the vans with the […]

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Enough Said

Enough Said

Dallas Buyers Club, The Great Beauty—while the two bold and devastating films that I saw last weekend swirl around my psyche, I’ll write about a film not so bold and the opposite of devastating, Enough Said. I still watch Seinfeld reruns. And like every woman my age who does, they probably see a piece of themselves […]

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Frances Ha

Frances Ha

Noah Baumbach, for now, has found his muse. Greta Gerwig. The two of them co-wrote Frances Ha, which Baumbach directed and produced, a small, off-beat story about a struggling dancer in New York. Greta Gerwig is not so much an actress to me as Greta Gerwig playing different versions of herself, like Diane Keaton or […]

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Blue Jasmine

Blue Jasmine

“Anxiety, nightmares and a nervous breakdown, there’s only so many traumas a person can withstand until they take to the streets and start screaming.” My favorite Cate Blanchett line in the new Woody Allen film, Blue Jasmine, though it was hard to choose. There are many. Here’s another one. “What does it take to get […]

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The secret in the cupboard

When my husband and I usually make pasta sauce, we use canned, San Marzano tomatoes. Olive oil, garlic, and hot peppers; ground pork and beef with sautéed onions; olives, anchovies and capers—whatever type of sauce it is, the simmering tomatoes never fail to calm my soul. But in our kitchen up on the fourth shelf […]

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The first man to go mad

The first man to go mad

The Man in the Gray Flannel Suit (1956), Madmen this is not. A few martinis are consumed, in those tiny glasses the way they’re supposed to be consumed. Stirred not shaken. Some whiskey, doubles mostly, and Tom Rath, our troubled hero, like Don Draper, does work in advertising, or PR that is, commutes into Manhattan […]

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A guide for getting over jetlag

A guide for getting over jetlag

Don’t As in, don’t fight it Live it Okay, so you’re awake at 4am Get up Make coffee Listen to the silence Feel alone in the darkness Percolating darkness Fuck exercise Make pesto Make love Ride the Bike Share Walk the abandoned streets The Highline No traffic No people Absolutely none Well, some bums Some […]

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The tomato, a dumpling, and the Aztec Indian

The tomato, a dumpling, and the Aztec Indian

Korea is thick with a gray that hovers, ever present, like the stench of garlic and summer. It can be oppressive. Which is why one must stay focused. One must do whatever it is one came here to do. There must be some reason you are here. Work, war, a spouse; to hide, disappear. But […]

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Wasteland

Wasteland

My writing often starts with garbage. It’s not uncommon for me to go back and, after reading what I’ve written, want to throw up, literally, from the stench. And though I might recoil, I don’t hit the delete key. I take the garbage and I study it. I sift through it and cull pieces I […]

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Love as a Dialogue

Love as a Dialogue

Sometimes I think of love as a dialogue, an exchange of ideas, one long conversation. Dreams, desires, hopes, fears, awe, surprise, frustration, anger, regret. And then all that unmemorable, banal blather. I’m a sucker for films that explore this notion. Before Midnight does just that. It’s the third film in a trilogy by Richard Linklater […]

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